By design Management Module failover (active MM getting down and standby MM taking over active role) should not cause any network downtime. We have seen some glitch in early 10.01 versions which are corrected now.
I recently tested MM failover with traffic going through a 8400 with OSPF processes and get no traffic drop.
We don't call that SSO, because this is native in the OS which is Database centric. SSDB is mirrored from active to standby module.
So all processes have their current entries on standby MM anytime.
About upgrading one MM then the other one, we don't support this.
Upgrade does not touch only MM, it touches as well Line Cards.
I hope this clarifies. Do not hesitate to reach out to your local Aruba contact. All Aruba SEs should be knowledgeable on these aspects.
Regards,
Vincent Giles
Aruba TME